Successful Relationship with Emma

Bring a Brand New You to Your Relationship in the New Year w/ Tavia Sharp (Ep.29)

• Emma Viglucci • Episode 29

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Sometimes we overcomplicate what it takes to take ourselves and our relationship to the next level. We might think it’s hopeless, that it’s impossible, and that it’s too much work and either not worth it or that we can’t do it. We might think we have to do all the work because our partner doesn’t want to even talk about our relationship. We might feel stuck and alone. 

But all that is not necessarily true! At some level you are choosing to experience your life and your relationship that way. And so you cocreate that experience with your partner… Don’t shoot the messenger. 

All the psychobabble aside, suffice it to say that you can bypass all this heartache and headache and take a shortcut… That’s right, a shortcut. Why not? Who said we can’t make things easier for ourselves? 

This shortcut has to do with changing your personal brand, including your image, to show up to your relationship and your life differently… Letting your brand lead the way, you’ll automatically shift your state, your mood, your energy and become more magnetic inspiring something different in your interactions… 

In this episode, I have motivating and fun conversation with Personal Branding Expert, Tavia Sharp, on what is our personal brand, the impact in has on our relationship and our life, identifying when we need a brand refresh, what a brand refresh can do for us, how the refresh can rekindle romantical sparks in our relationship and change our dynamics, how to address fear or resistance to upgrades and changes, and how to use the holidays to start our refresh to set ourselves up to start the new year with a brand you us… 

We also explore Tavia’s process for rebranding ourselves!  

Hope you enjoy it! 

  

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Emma Viglucci:

Hello lovelies, welcome to another episode. I am so excited for today's guest. Her name is Davia Sharp, and we're talking about personal image and branding. We focus on the personal side of things more and we talk about why it's important to have an image that's really reflective of who we are, and how to go about creating shifts and the impact that this shift creates, both personally and professionally, and so we cover this topic from the different times and reasons why people might want to create a shift, what's happening for them and how they are feeling that they are feeling like they need a change, and then how to go about the change and then what kind of results you get from creating such a shift.

Emma Viglucci:

A lot of times, what happens is that we might not have evolved our look with who we have become, so we might be stuck in the look or in our appearance, or we might be dated on one hand. On the other hand, we might be stuck in the look or in our appearance, or we might be dated on one hand. On the other hand, we might experience that we haven't kept up with the maintenance of ourselves or our look, or our grooming, our appearance or whatever we want to call it, and we're not looking put together, we're looking a little shabby, a little frumpy, a little grody. Look and put together we're looking a little shabby, a little frumpy, a little grody. And so we kind of need to shake things up a little bit. And so those are two reasons that might feel that we need to kind of step up our game so that we could be more reflexive of our status, where we are, who we are and what's going on for us. But also we might want to create a shift. We might be totally content with our look, our appearance, how we've done, how we've evolved and all those things, but maybe it's not enough or good enough, or we feel it's not reflective enough of where we want to be, who we're becoming or where we're going right, and so we might need an up level for that reason, or for both reasons, right, both things could be true. And so we cover this, so that we identify the reasons and we offer ideas and suggestions for doing some minor tweaks, so you can start creating those things during the holidays, so you can start owning your new identity, your new look, your new mojo sooner than later and right away. You could create changes immediately if you want to, and then also so that you can start the new year right, so you can start thinking about what other changes do I want to make, how far do I want to take this? How do I really own who I feel I am and who I'm additionally becoming, so that I could create the shifts in my life that I'm looking for in my relationship, in my personal life, in all the different places and professionally. So we get all the results and all the manifestations and all the yumminess that we're looking for, because the way that we look, the way that we show up, definitely impacts, has an impact, and then it affects the results that we get, and so we talk about all of that. It's an amazing, fun conversation, so I hope that you enjoy it and I'm going to read her bio and then we'll say hello to Tavia. Stay tuned, you're in for a treat.

Emma Viglucci:

Tavia Sharp is an executive image consultant, personal branding expert and speaker with over 20 years of fashion industry experience, designing for some of the top brands like Calvin Klein, nautica and Macy's. Her designs have even been featured on celebs like Drake, neo, chrissy Teigen and Emma Roberts in magazines like GQ and Sports Illustrated. After years working behind the scenes, tavia discovered her true calling to help ambitious entrepreneurs and executives discover their secret weapon and upgrade their online and offline image so that they can take their business and brand to the next level. From individualized consulting and styling services to seminars and workshops, tavia brings her A-game to help clients solidify their personal and professional image to stand out, make an impact and magnetize premium opportunities. Hi, tavia, so good to have you. How are you? Today? I'm doing great, so excited to be here. I am super excited for this topic as we wrap up the holidays and start thinking about the new year.

Emma Viglucci:

Some people might have started doing that right, especially planning the gifts thing and receiving the gifts and all that kind of stuff. So they might already be in that mindset. But, in case whoever's listening, if they haven't thought about this yet, you still have a chance to sit just a pop to have an amazing new year. The conversation is going to be from any period when you listen to this to starting a refresh, whether it's a new year or any time that you listen to this and you want to start something fresh, we're going to hook you up, right? Yes, that's the idea. That's what we're going to do. So why don't you tell us a little bit about in a nutshell, like a couple of sentences, like what your focus is with your clients, like what do you do exactly with image, with personal branding? It's a little professional branding as well, but we're focusing on the personal. So just a little bit so the audience knows, and then we'll jump in into how do we tailor this and apply this to the relationship, into people's love lives.

Tavia Sharp :

Oh, this is great. So I work with both professional men and women and I help them sharpen their style, their visibility and their online and offline brand. So really, it's about building a personal brand that becomes recognizable not only to when we're out and about in person, but also our online brand and how people perceive us on the internet yes, very nice, I love that.

Emma Viglucci:

And so this is interesting, right, because, yeah, we think, and usually when we think brand, we think you know business, professional appearances on like billboards, you know kind of thing. But our image, we have an image period, right. When I go to the gym, I have a look Like I look different from everybody else, and when I go to the supermarket I have a look, and when I stand here in camera I have a look Like I have a personal Emma look, right, and yeah, so we have an image, we have a brand and it's so good to hone in on this in terms of how it impacts our relationships. I'm just so curious to have your take on this.

Tavia Sharp :

So anything about that to get us started yeah, because the way we show up is the way that we think about ourselves. So when we are leaving our house or we're showing up on Zoom or we're putting out a piece of content that represents us, it's an extension of who we are. So it's from the way you dress to the way you speak, to the way you communicate yourself, to the videos and pictures that you put online. All of it is part of your brand, not just one thing, it's all of it, and I call that the ABCDs. So it's your appearance, your behavior, your communication and your digital presence. So ABCDs of your image, and that's what I work on with people. Not just one thing, but all of that, because they all work together to create who you are and how you present yourself to the world, like all the different ways that people could take you in.

Emma Viglucci:

So appearance, behavior, communication and digital. I love it. And how does that relate to relationships in our personal life?

Tavia Sharp :

Yeah, and it can be professional too, but if we're focused on personal, it's also like how you show up as a way that you respect yourself, but also the person that you're with. So it's interesting because I know you and I talked about this a little bit offline, but I actually mostly have male clients, so a majority of my clients are men and many, many times, yes, they come to me for help because they want to show up in a more powerful way and they want to show up as a leader and they want to show up in their business, right, but often once we start working together, they share with me. Well, I really want to attract up in their business, right, but often once we start working together, they share with me. Well, I really want to attract the right partner. Or, if I'm in a relationship, I want to show up as attractive and I want my partner to see me that way and to perceive me as somebody who shows up for them, and so that's interesting. And then, as you and I talked about, I have a lot of women who reach out to me and say I'd love for you to help my husband because I want them to show up as a more presentable in a more presentable way, but it's.

Tavia Sharp :

I think there's a lot going on underneath of that, because obviously they're not the ones who want to do it Right, they want to hire a professional. They're not the ones who want to do it right, they want to hire a professional. And and also they, they want their partners. Maybe it's a long period of time. Most of the people that hire me, they've been together for quite some time. It's not a new relationship and maybe there's some of the uh, you know, or they're thinking well, why is this person not really showing up? You know, for me anymore, I take the time to get dressed, I take the time to put myself together and make myself, you know, attractive for my partner. But are men doing it? And that's an interesting thought.

Emma Viglucci:

That is interesting, and so obviously there's a certain type of woman who will reach out and request this kind of service, and I would imagine that they already are put together for them to request that of their husband. I can't imagine a frumpy woman coming over and saying, can you style my husband? It doesn't make sense, right? So that's interesting, so something to keep in mind. Yep, but so they are thinking that the partner is not showing up, and even for themselves. When you do work with women for themselves, not for their husbands, like the client is husband or wife or whatever what is it that they need to be showing up with? What is part of that image that you're playing with them to help them show up better?

Tavia Sharp :

Just to be a little bit like leveled up. You know, like instead of wearing just frumpy, baggy clothes that look like you don't care to transforming them into putting on things that actually make them like feel better, number one and also just look more presentable. Because I do think a lot of people get complacent. I think that's a good word. We get complacent.

Tavia Sharp :

I myself struggle with this sometimes too, especially because when I'm not feeling great or you know just something's going on in your life, you tend to kind of get like into a complacent place, and a lot of times that happens in the way that you dress and the way you show up. Because you want to be comfortable. You feel like I just want to kind of take a step back. I don't want to, you know, put myself out there and feel like you know I'm being too bold. Or you know it's almost like you want to hide, right, and that does show up in the way we dress. And I do think in relationships sometimes, right, we're just like, oh well, what, why should, why does it matter? You know you've been with that person for a while and you start to just get lazy about it. Let's just put it out there, because that's what happens.

Emma Viglucci:

And I do think people take that as a sign, like, why are you not showing up for me? You know what's really interesting? I could imagine that this happens more for people who are in front of the camera more and who are working from home more, who are more isolated. I mean, I could totally relate to this, right, if I wasn't recording, let me tell you. If I wasn't recording, let me tell you, it could get pretty lazy up in here, right and so.

Emma Viglucci:

And even like choosing outfits. It's like, okay, like I'm not going into an office five days a week, like I'm not going to all of these places, like how much effort do I put into my wardrobe, right, you know. And into high heels I used to wear like the highest heels and like all these fancy shoes. And it's like, okay, I have a bunch of them, but I can barely wear them. I barely have the opportunity to wear them nowadays. And it's like, okay, that's interesting. So how do I tailor my appearance or my style or my closet to match a different lifestyle, right, so that's true, you know. So any thoughts about that?

Tavia Sharp :

Yeah, definitely, definitely. That has come into play quite a bit post, you know, uh, pandemic right now. It's been four years and people are set it, settled into their new lifestyle. You know which, most of the time the my clients at least are really having a challenge because it's like every day is different. Before they used to go to an office five days a week and now people are like well, used to go to an office five days a week and now people are like well, sometimes I go to the office or I'm traveling for work, or I have meetings on Zoom, and then I have this event with my wife. You know, it's like this constantly.

Tavia Sharp :

There's something different every day, and I actually think that throws people off. And so what happens is they do get lazy because they're like oh, I just don't want to think about all that. That's a lot of decisions to make and most that's like five wardrobes. Oh my gosh, it's that's so much work, think about. So they either get lazy and don't do anything and become complacent and like who cares? Nobody cares anyway. Or they say no, it actually does matter and I need to hire somebody to help me, because I don't think I can do this on my own. It's just too much to deal with.

Emma Viglucci:

I mean I could imagine that the go-to would be like okay, let me just middle of the ground and I just do that for all of the things, and then you're not really showing up with your best look or your best image because it might be too toned down for certain things, it may be a little too much for just being at home. Yeah, you're not comfortable, so, like, I don't know, it's like just funky stuff there. Yeah, I hear all of that. Now are there specific life milestones or transition times or other specific times when people get thrown off or where they find that they coming out of that or being in influx or in the middle of that that they struggle most with their image when they need more of a pick me up or refresh.

Tavia Sharp :

Yeah, absolutely. It's. Usually is transition times new job, new role, new relationship, divorce. I lost weight. You know I don't fit in my clothes. That's a big one. Maybe you know there's like a lot of people are taking you know some fat loss medication Right, and that be very rapid. So it is these transition times. Or a lot of times it may be like I want to find my partner right or I want to find that dream job or level up in my business. So it typically is they just happen to go through a transition or they want to make a change.

Tavia Sharp :

So I learned a little bit of all of that all of that?

Emma Viglucci:

Sure, yeah, that makes absolute sense. And so that when, as you were describing those things, I'm hearing the work with men, you have the women. Are there additional times when this happens?

Tavia Sharp :

Yeah, it typically is new job, new role or a business Like. I have a lot of clients that are entrepreneurs who want to start getting more speaking engagements or want to start putting themselves out there right. They want to get more attention for their business and they know that one thing that may be holding them back is their image right, and that actually impacts your confidence as well. So if you're not feeling confident in yourself, this is one way that you absolutely with like out of doubt, us working together. The next day you will feel confident because you're going to see the shift right and showing up differently is a really the one of the fastest ways to do that. I talk about this a lot. It impacts your emotional state, so there is something called enclosed cognition. This is a real thing, you can look it up and it basically is the psychological state of dressing in a way that makes you feel different. So if you dress in a way that shifts your mood and your mindset, then of course, you're going to show up in a more powerful way.

Emma Viglucci:

So good. You know what's really interesting. I'm also thinking of women going through postpartum, going back to work yes, right, and they're feeling all wobbly because they've been out of work for a while, or they're just not feeling comfortable in their bodies and it affects their relationship. Work like all the different things, if not feeling confident. So that's also probably a good time, I would imagine.

Tavia Sharp :

Oh, absolutely, and that is definitely a one. And then another one that I'm dealing with right now and I'm, you know, because even myself is perimenopause and menopause. We're going through a transition in life that is unavoidable, and our bodies feel different and we shift and change, and so we start to go oh, why do I have this extra 10 pounds? And maybe it's in an area why are certain body parts looking a certain way? Yeah, exactly what do I wear? Because the things that I wore before they look good before, or maybe you felt like they did, and then now you're like, oh, not so comfortable to show that part of your body, right? So that's another big transition.

Emma Viglucci:

Mm-hmm, you know, the clothes just don't fit the same way, they don't fit the same way.

Tavia Sharp :

Yeah, absolutely.

Emma Viglucci:

Mm-hmm. Yeah, that's great. That's a great example. And so when people are not feeling confident and they're thinking about what the heck do I do and this is before they even get to making a choice about, like I need help, right, so they're struggling a little bit, and then there's just thinking of different ways. What are some things that they could think about that could help them make a decision like this to get support, or that they could start doing stuff that they could start doing for themselves before they take the big leap if they're not ready?

Tavia Sharp :

Oh my gosh, so many things I mean. One thing I always say to people is like why don't you just go on Pinterest and find some inspiration? It's like creating your like a vision board for yourself. You know when, like, you're ready to make a change in life or you just want something different, right, a lot of times, you know, even when we're doing that, like at start of the new year, we might create vision boards. Um, or it's just this one thing you could do. Then you could do a vision board for your own image. Like you can just hone it in. Uh, either do it by hand or just go on Pinterest and find images that make you feel like, yeah, that's the next level version of myself. Yes, like that makes me get excited. You know, pay attention to the signs in your body. Do you feel like excited? Do you get goosebumps Like, do you feel that like little, like you know thing which just feels like a tingle? You know, like what is it that you're like? Yeah, that, that that's it Right, and put those images on a board. I mean, that's like one thing you could do for sure.

Tavia Sharp :

Another thing is, like some people like they actually need to put things on. So like, go to a, go to a store that you've always wanted to buy something from and you just didn't give yourself permission to do it. Just go to the store and try it on. Nobody said that trying on means you have to buy it. So just go put that thing on and see how you feel. Does it shift your mindset? How do you feel in it? Do you get to like embody this other version of you that you're like, oh well, yeah, this feels like me, but you just didn't do it before. And that's like a whole thing you could do. I mean, I could give you more, but I think that feels a little advanced.

Emma Viglucci:

So let's pin that for a second. Let's backtrack, cause I could just hear the people listening and they're like everything that I try and I was going to look like crap, or like I don't have the body for it, or like I don't know what to get. I don't know who the new me is, you know. So let's make our way there, so maybe we can help our listeners along. So the first thing that that's coming to mind to ask you is how might it show up that complacency in the relationship? Let's say like what might be some of the feelings, what might be some of the behaviors or what are some of the things that people tell you that they're going through, that they know that they're like?

Tavia Sharp :

eh, you know, yeah, a lot of people just say like, oh, I just feel kind of blah, I don't like how things look on me. And this is for men and women. I get this actually very similar things. They express it differently, but most of the time they say, you know, nothing fits me or I just I'm just so tired of like what's in my closet, it just doesn't like feel good anymore. I want to throw everything away and start over. Yeah, if wives are reaching out to me a lot of times, you know for their husbands, they'll say you know, I just he just looks sloppy and he's not putting in an effort into what he wears and typically the the man is like well, I don't really see what the problem is, but it obviously is. If not just one wife has reached out to me, but many like a lot, then obviously this is a common thing because to them they're probably thinking why isn't he putting in more effort?

Emma Viglucci:

You know, because you know but that's like that's weird language, right? So, as I put in my therapist hat on, so guys don't measure effort that way. You know like that's not going to be they're going to worry about usually. So it makes sense what you're saying, yes, and and that's weird that the women are calling that effort right in the I mean appearance makes sense, that it's important.

Emma Viglucci:

So that's why the traction happens and the grooming, I mean who knows what else. You know, I'm sure that all the things go along with looking sloppy. Yeah, so you know. So isn't this woman a show? Are calling it effort or investing in looking better? Investing?

Tavia Sharp :

I hear that Like why doesn't he put more effort into how he looks?

Tavia Sharp :

Doesn't he see how, like it looks sloppy or it looks lazy, or like he doesn't care about the way he presents himself? And I do think women probably do take it personally, right, like what you, ok, you're not really showing up and I'm doing all these things, like I'm getting my hair done every week, I'm doing my nails, I'm getting dressed up, I'm putting on makeup. You know, I'm not saying they have to do it every day, but I do think there's maybe a little bit of that comparison Like, well, why do I feel like I have to like, do all these things to you know, keep up appearances, and then you're not really doing anything, and that, or only when we have an event, right, they don't even show up for date night. Like, dress up, oh, I put on this nice dress and he just wore like his same old, same old polo shirt and baggy jeans and sneakers, you know, or something about that, that they feel that effort isn't being done. So I that's why I do hear that word, which is why I used it.

Emma Viglucci:

Yeah, yeah, yeah, totally. I totally hear that and and I I like converting that into showing up because I'm wondering if the effort in their appearance is not is not being put in right.

Tavia Sharp :

It makes sense that they also probably feel that the partner's not showing up in other ways.

Emma Viglucci:

Oh yeah, but that's the concrete way, that that's what they could put their finger on, but they can't talk about the dynamics or the emotional or some other ways in which the partner might not be showing up. But let me change how you look so it feels like you're showing up for me, but right. So I'm hearing a bunch of other things going on there, like partner, how partners show up or don't show up. Oh yeah, yeah, yes, do you get any of that by any chance? Like what, how, what are the ways that might not show up? Or how do you're feeling?

Tavia Sharp :

Yeah, I mean, I definitely see it sometimes, you know, because some of these partner, you know the these partnerships, I do see the dynamic Right, and I'm just kind of not getting into that part because you know that's what I'm there for. But I do see it sometimes and then like what they kind of pick at or or what they're saying, and then I'm like, hmm, this, this is interesting because there's probably more going on. But they don't usually say it too much. To me it is more like the surface stuff. But I definitely agree with you. I think that there's probably more going on there and they're just able to pinpoint the way that's the practical.

Emma Viglucci:

You can put your hands on that measure right?

Emma Viglucci:

you could see yes, exactly you're, especially if the women are caring a lot about appearances and they're looking great. So that's the one way that they could measure it and create a shift. Yes, that's going too much deeper, putting too much more effort in the relationship. Potentially, I don't know. Yeah, but so when they start making that shift, maybe, maybe I'm getting ahead of myself. Hang on, let me see. How do I ask? What's the next thing that I want to ask you? Like, how does the investing in the appearance shift the showing up or shift the dynamics, or have you seen how they interact differently or what else happens to their confidence You've mentioned earlier, like? What else are some of the things that come up?

Tavia Sharp :

Yes, absolutely. Usually the wife will thank me like ridiculous, like they're like oh my God, this is like night and day because you're right, they could see it. It's a tangible thing. They can see the difference, the before and the after, right, which is we all love those before and after.

Emma Viglucci:

Yes, yes, for sure.

Tavia Sharp :

And everybody does Um, and so I think that they do see the difference and there even sparks attraction again, which is right. That happens in the person specifically. Typically what happens is they feel like more confident, they feel like more excited, they feel happier. More excited, they feel happier, they feel they get more attention, which that in turn reinforces that. Oh wow, this was a good decision, because oh, look at all the compliments I'm getting people saying things to me, right, people always say this and I say, well, that's great, because that's positive reinforcement.

Tavia Sharp :

Right, they did this and it made a shift. So that kind of continues like a little bit of a snowball effect. So they're like they got a pep in their step, they act differently, they, you know they feel more bold, they, they're excited about this new look and you know that's when they really should continue to keep it up, because that can also fade over time if you're not continuing that momentum, but for sure you definitely. They definitely feel internally a shift and a lot of times that is the thing that was missing to take them from where they were to where they want to go with their goals A lot of times. Let's come back to that.

Emma Viglucci:

Let's come back to that. Hang on one second. That's beautiful. Imagine that they also feel more alive, more like themselves, like more in alignment, more who they are as opposed to like right, Absolutely yes, and that. So that's going to radiate. It's not just the new jacket or the new color. Like that. Energy is going to be different. That's going to be attractive. It's not just the look right, the energy is different.

Tavia Sharp :

That's beautiful. I always say magnetic, right, very magnetic. When I always say magnetic, very magnetic, when you know you, you basically put on I call it putting on your power. It's like, but put on your power and then that shifts it and then you become this more magnetic person because your internal state and your energy shifts and that is what's attractive to people around you.

Emma Viglucci:

Right, excellent, very, very nice. So do you have a concrete examples or details on how that magnetism manifests Like? What does it turn into, and also if you could bring it back to the relationship you said more attraction, like what else?

Tavia Sharp :

That's what the relationship you said, more attraction, like what else? Yeah, so I mean, I could give a lot of examples. Let me see, I have an example of one of my clients who we did this with and we totally gave him a, you know, image makeover. He started wearing you know, these new looks and he said, oh my God, like you have no idea what has happened to me in this past week. I've had doors being held open for me, uh, people giving me, like you know, first treatment like for parking, like he's like.

Tavia Sharp :

I even got somebody that came up and said, hey, do you want to be on this Like board? You know where you make, basically you're a decision maker, and then, on top of that, you make, basically you're a decision maker. And then, on top of that, I also, uh, he was looking for, uh, a partner, and so I gave him a little, you know, just like a little thing to do around manifesting uh a partner, a little exercise. I'll call it an exercise. And he did that exercise and he said, oh my gosh, tavia, I did this exercise literally within I think it was just a couple months he met this woman and it has now been his partner for four years, how lovely. But also you know the internal. It's like that internal state you know, because of the outer and that's what all shifted. So it did impact his business and his personal relationships.

Emma Viglucci:

Yeah, lovely, very nice. And when people are making that shift as they're going through a process of re-imaging themselves, what's part of that? Because I mean, you could put on a whole new wardrobe on somebody and maybe it's not them, right? So how do how do they hone in into their identity and the next level of themselves and how do they choose that Like any suggestions for the listeners.

Tavia Sharp :

Yeah, I'll share my process and see if Okay, perfect, yes, tips from this. So the first step is I do have a consultation with them, so we go into a deep dive. So once somebody decides to work with me, we go deeper. I really ask a lot of questions about who do they see themselves as, and there's a lot of like internal things that they are thinking about. So the questions really gear to that, so I can see like who, who is it that? And I get the visual right, cause I'm the, I'm creating it for them.

Emma Viglucci:

I want to make sure it's a match.

Tavia Sharp :

So we spend time working on that. Then the next step is I actually create a whole vision board, like I was talking about style vision board, and then from that vision board I create what I call the blueprint. And our blueprint is really our roadmap to what styles, what colors, what fits, what brands are going to make you your new. You come to life Right, and that goes in the blueprint. So it's pretty, um, you know, it's a pretty in-depth blueprint. Then, once we decide, yeah, this is the, this is me, this is the direction we're going in, kind of like if you hired an interior designer to redecorate your home, they would. They would want to know your personality and what makes you tick and how, what kind of lifestyle. And then they, they design this beautiful, you know, mood board. It's the same thing, I'm just doing your personal style. Then we say, yep, this is it.

Tavia Sharp :

I curate a whole day, really an afternoon, where I'm choosing the stores, I'm choosing the looks and what items we need to create your little capsule wardrobe, and then we go and shop it.

Tavia Sharp :

So we spend the day together and we shop in New York City and we're basically finding the items that are perfect for you. And that's when we get to try things on and see, oh, wow, yeah, this feels good, like I get to see the shift right there, and then I put the outfits together, I style them for them, so they have it all done in like this really cool app that I use, so they have a fun book. So that's like the process, basically. Um, and so that's how I know. You know that this like look that we're creating is really a fit for them. We'll never even gonna get as far to the store if it's not like we've you got to do that ahead of time. So we're on board at that stage, and then we just about finding it and having an amazing day where you get to play and I'm your guide for the day.

Emma Viglucci:

That's lovely. So question do you have like avatars Like, oh, this personality or that kind of style?

Tavia Sharp :

like things like that. I've thought about that many times, but really everybody's different. So it's I go back and forth about that, like I really don't. I have some guidance. I will say, if people want to kind of figure this out on their own, because I feel like if you don't do this or you don't know how to do it yourself, then I have some direction in that sense. But if they're doing it with me, we're really curating it to like the unique individual that they are and so everybody's different and not one single person that I've styled in 10 years has ever been the same. So it's not a cookie cutter service at all, but I do have some like guidance as far as like how you could kind of figure out if you really have zero, you know idea of a place.

Emma Viglucci:

You know what I would love to see and I don't know. Hopefully I'm not crossing any lines with this, but like I'm getting a download, like I see the adventurer, the, the traveler, the, the the gamer right, like more personal life as opposed to professional. Yeah, you know, like the the studious or intellectual, like just like specific, looks right. And then, of course, you tell her to the person but like there's, there's like a brand, like there's a type of person, personality more quiet, more going, more bold, more quiet, more introverted, extra extroverted. So I think that all those things would play a good play, a role, and you could, I could. I see buckets, you know, like I see columns of clothing for each one of those. I don't know know.

Tavia Sharp :

Yeah, they do exist in the world. They do exist like style archetypes, for sure, right. But I have I've wanted to go in depth about that, about creating my own as well, but I love, I love those titles. I think those are good to explore.

Emma Viglucci:

Yeah, that's just what came to me.

Tavia Sharp :

I'm sure there's more, no definitely like the romantic type, right. But you're right, they do exist out there. I shouldn't say that somebody can't go and look for that If they do a little research and Googling. Absolutely, and even there's YouTube videos. I just don't personally have too many set up, but it's something I've been thinking a lot about because, you're right, it would be helpful for some guidance.

Emma Viglucci:

Yeah, and also, and again. If this, you could chuck it right, If this doesn't make sense. But what's coming to me is like some like a different arm to your business, you know, like something else you could create, like this whole guidance, If you don't want the whole full on enchilada, more like a DIY.

Tavia Sharp :

You know, you download these things and kind of do it yourself type of thing. Yeah, I've definitely thought about that at this point, so I've been doing it for so long.

Emma Viglucci:

Yeah, because you see so many patterns, you know, I would imagine that you would see that, very good. And then, of course, if they don't know what to do with that, like okay, I'm the adventurer, but I have no idea what an adventurer looks like. Perfect, I'll help you.

Tavia Sharp :

Yes, yes, I love that. Just a thought.

Emma Viglucci:

Yeah, anywho. So a handful of ideas. So how would that play out for the romance, for the connection, for the relationship dynamics? How you know, now my energy is shifted, I'm more in my groove, I'm more myself, I'm connected to my higher self, I'm showing up better, I'm feeling better, I'm getting in touch with all my stuff. I'm more alive, all my stuff. I'm more magnetic. So what are some of the shifts that you have seen or that you could imagine would happen?

Tavia Sharp :

I do think that people, like I said, it's an energetic shift, right, because they start to feel different, you know, and it impacts their energy. You know, and it impacts their energy. And I do think, with relationships, that person feels more connected and more attracted to their partner again. It's kind of like it gives them that like reboot that they were looking for and they see them differently, right, and then they feel like there's this rekindling of sorts, because that person's energy is different. I mean, rarely have I worked with somebody where we didn't work on this, at least in this process that I have honed in on, and they didn't shift their energy, where they were just like, oh okay, yeah, great, this is great, I'll just put on this new jacket or whatever. Where I really want that energy shift to happen, because that's where the magic is right, I'm more magnetic. And then it of course, impacts their partner, right, because they're like wow, who is? Who are you? Where have you?

Emma Viglucci:

been. You know, I love the language that you use right there. So rekindling that, that, that it almost. It's almost like I'm still here, like a refresher version of me, or like the old version of me with new, with new sparks or something right, as opposed to like this muted version I got lost in translation over time Like, oh, I'm still here, like, look at my new, improved version of me, you know, next level, so good, and that gets rekindled at that. That magnetism kind of comes alive a little bit.

Tavia Sharp :

Yes, beautiful, that magnetism kind of comes alive a little bit. Yes, beautiful. Okay, you need that too, because I mean, maybe you see this often right, where relationships do lose their spark a little bit, even if the person or the people love each other. Yeah, and it's just, you know, you just get used to that person that you're with and it becomes super comfortable, and maybe we need that sometimes, just that little, you know, like little tweak that rekindles something right, even if you know there's really nothing wrong. It's more just like, well, it's a little re-igniting the spark a bit.

Emma Viglucci:

I love that and I think that what happens a lot is that we get so involved in like life and the kids and the work and the business, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, right and the doing of life, that we forget to be in our life, and so I know she gets a little muted right.

Emma Viglucci:

It becomes grinding as opposed to radiating and it becomes more doing as opposed supposed to being, and then something like this kind of sheds the cobwebs, you know, and it's kind of like, okay, oh, I could be, oh, I could be radiant, right, and in a new image, would capture the evolution of the person. Like, okay, when we met we were here. Now I've been evolving over time, but maybe my look, my appearance, hasn't kept up with myself, right, like I've just been doing life and like I'm taking a beating, or like my appearance is a little dull. Over time it's been dull, but now it's like, oh, let me remove the junk. And like, let me put a new outfit on, literally in this case, and like, oh, this, this represents the new version of me, how nice. And it's like an awakening kind of happening.

Tavia Sharp :

Yes, absolutely. I totally agree with that. So yeah, I think it's so great because it's also something fun to do. You know some other things that other methods or other ways to do that may not be as fun, so this is actually fun, right?

Emma Viglucci:

That's the interesting thing. I love that. This is a good gift. If people haven't bought gifts for partners yet or for Valentine's Day coming down the pike, you know like we start thinking about that stuff earlier around here. Good gifts, good gifts. I love that so much. Now, what about connection with other family members, with other loved ones, with friends and just in general? Just honing in more on the connection piece of things, any thoughts?

Tavia Sharp :

Well, I definitely think people see that person differently. So typically what I hear from my clients is they're like oh my gosh, I got all these compliments right. And I always think like, okay, what's that about? Like, what about? A compliment makes somebody say I'm getting all these compliments?

Emma Viglucci:

I love that yeah.

Tavia Sharp :

Tells me that they love that there's recognition, that they are being recognized, like that they they were noticing them, they're noticing the shift. And that's really what people are reacting to, right, because they're like, oh, wow, and it makes them feel good, I'm being seen in a good way, I'm being seen Exactly, and I think that's, at the end of the day, who doesn't like a compliment? I mean, it makes us feel good, right, and so I think that's really what it's about. So I do have a lot of people that say, oh my gosh, my business partner is like who are you Like? What's this new look Right? Or friends, family.

Tavia Sharp :

Now I will say, on the flip side, I've also heard, um, and I've seen it too like sometimes, especially with men, that, like their male friends sometimes are like make fun of them for this, for the change, and I noticed this a lot and I'm like, hmm, what's that about? And I guess it's like this like thing where I don't know, well, they're uncomfortable. They're uncomfortable, so it's like a thing that they do to be like kind of make fun of the guy for working on this, yeah and yeah. So that's the unfortunate thing that happens sometimes, but I do think it makes them uncomfortable. Like, oh man, why are you showing up like this?

Emma Viglucci:

Like just be your frumpy old self, like you'd fit in with us more, right, but you know and it's a great point, because I think that happens with most changes, right, depends on the group that you belong to, and immature guys will have a tendency to do what you just described. Yes, and anytime there's a change, you know, go exclusive with a girl, getting married, getting married, having a baby. Like all the guys who are not at the same level or who are immature, they would put down all those accomplishments and milestones, right, or like oh, you're getting too big for your whatever you know, like whatever they do. Yes, so, but I could imagine that you have stuff in your arsenal, in your toolkit, to prepare the guys for, like you might get this from your friends, right?

Emma Viglucci:

So just so that they could deal with if they get crap.

Tavia Sharp :

Yeah, exactly so. Cause the cause? It is a big change. Sometimes, you know, not sometimes the people, it's more subtle, but a lot of times it is a pretty big change. They're like Whoa. But I think that you know, we have to be comfortable with that. Those reactions to not just the positive ones, but the ones that make you feel like, oh, wait a minute, should I have done this? You know, yeah, because everybody wants to fit in, for sure.

Emma Viglucci:

So and, as you said, that they might get a negative reaction. What came to me was like I'm wondering if you experience that they're having resistance to the change as you're working together Because, like a big personality shift or you know, going from like okay, this is who I am today to like the next version of me, that's scary. Oh, yeah, right. So what have you seen around that and how do you usually work with that?

Tavia Sharp :

I would say, because you said that the truth is is a lot of people decide not to work with me because of that. Right, I bet it actually feels scary, and even though they know I can help them go from here to here, they actually stop themselves from too much and they actually stop themselves from stepping in. What I always say is like we're going to, I'm going to help you step to the next level. You're literally going to step into your new identity. It doesn't mean that it's not you, it's just another version of you. But you have to. I'm going to hold your hand through the process, but some people just go ah no, I don't know if I'm ready for that yet. So that's what holds them back from saying yes and signing up to work with me, unfortunately.

Emma Viglucci:

Oh, I just got chills up and down, up and down, up and down, totally Like I think that this goes beyond your service. I mean, this happens all over the place. I would. I would say that that that's why not everybody's a gazillion millionaire, gazillion billionaire, right? And that's why not everybody has the highest level of success in their life and in their romance and in their marriage and in their home. Like that's why people don't have their best lives. Yes, it's too much. Their image of themselves is like no, I'm not the person who does all those things or who has all those things or who feels those things. I'm this person who's broken and hurt and shame right All the things. Like I can't. That's too much money, or that's too I don't know. Too much luck, too much love, whatever right, too much attention and people not stepping into what's the possibilities of the.

Tavia Sharp :

You know, like anything is possible, right, if people are like, definitely we hold ourselves back, we definitely do. I mean, you know, and I agree with you, and it's hard for me to see that because I've done so much work in personal development. I was, you know, I've done leadership training. I mean I've done a lot of stuff myself, so I am a person who sees what's possible and I can shift past it pretty quickly. But I remember the person that was not that before, how it was scary and I don't know if I could do that, or that feels scary to take that risk. You know and trust because you've got to trust me that I'm the right guide, that I'm going to be the person that's going to get you from here to there.

Emma Viglucci:

You know that's also that too, because you know, you know, I think it's more ourselves than the person in front of us.

Tavia Sharp :

Yeah.

Emma Viglucci:

Definitely. Of course, there's an element of that, but I think there's more like people might not be ready, like I'm gonna be ready. Yeah, I mean, I could identify a few times in my life when I was stepping into next level of things and I was like, oh, like, wow, you know, like when we were like this house, it was like it was, it felt so huge, right. And then that's one time that I could remember, when I did one of my websites, I was like it was too fancy. It was like I was telling a developer to make it like less, like it was full, so like big Right. I just said those are the two things that are coming to mind right now, but this is too much.

Emma Viglucci:

We had a fancy car. Like I felt embarrassed driving this fancy car down my street Like what, right, very interesting, and like those are all kinds of blueprints and programs and like all all the things right, so that we have to do our own work. So I could totally imagine, you know, like I can wear this fancy blazer or this fancy dress or this fancy shoes, right, like that's not me. I could totally see people getting their own way and not showing up that way. Oh, yeah, allowing this to happen, oh my goodness. Yes, yeah, a little too much disclosure maybe on my end, but hey, that's why we're here.

Tavia Sharp :

That's why we're here.

Emma Viglucci:

Yes, so good, let's see what else. So, as people are enjoying their holidays any, so I'm gonna be tricky with this question, okay, so see if, if it feels like too weird that we could redirect, how can they start bringing the new image of themselves into the holidays, into embracing the new year, and into considering possibly working with you or doing an image, personal, rebrand, personal, whatever, whatever level they need to go? What are some things that they could start putting on? Like, well, what's the identity thing that they could start putting on now, right, whether it's practical or mindset so that they could start getting towards a good place for the new year and then do something more about this as we go if they need it, if they want to.

Tavia Sharp :

Yeah, I mean that's a good point. I mean I would be thinking about how do you align with this, because personal branding is very important. Okay, it doesn't matter who you are, what you do, what industry you work in. Every single one of us has a personal brand. That's first and foremost. Doesn't matter what you do for a living.

Tavia Sharp :

Okay, your brand could be frumpy yeah, that could be it. But everybody has a representation of themselves, that's right we are, it's our values and all of that. So, if we're thinking in that perspective, we have to start thinking like, well, what's the image part of our brand? Like, how, how does that? What is that, you know? And you have to just think like is it a hairstyle? Is it a clothes? Like a piece of clothing, a particular clothing? Is it an accessory? Is it a color, right, that we could actually be putting on to match our branding? Is it a signature item? Like a signature thing you know that you could start to incorporate that would people notice you for that thing?

Tavia Sharp :

You know, color, like I said, is kind of an easy one, but it could be something very specific and it could be, like I said, your hair. It could be a bold lipstick For men, you know. It could be like a, like a signature bow tie. I want to say that's just like something random, or a pocket square or a color color or a pair of shoes, you know, besides thinking about, like your logo, you know, or your, you know, your signature, like things like that that are more, you know, like part of your, you know, branding in that sense.

Tavia Sharp :

What about you as the brand? What about you as the face of your brand? What would you do differently? Even if it's one small tweak, what would that be? And those are literal, like things that you could put on that I was thinking about Also the mindset piece, I would think who is it out there that you admire, that you look up to? That's like doing what you want to do or is successful at that thing. Right, who is it? And how do they show up in the world? What about them? Do you like, are you drawn to? And then you know, define it for yourself I love that.

Emma Viglucci:

You know who's coming to mind. Um, what's the guy's name? The apple guy, steve jobs. Steve jobs, like the brand was just black, like just you know, like, just wear the simple, simple.

Tavia Sharp :

And he did that because he didn't want to think about making that decision, because he said I'm making all these other decisions every day, so I'm just going to wear this uniform. Because mark zberg's the same, you know now he actually is putting effort into his style and his how. It matches his, like this brand identity that he's created. Very different, if you've noticed him now. But for years he just wore a t-shirt and like jeans. But you know, people are starting to think about this piece as part of their brand, because it matters. And you're right, people bring up that example all the time, right? But we remember it, don't we?

Emma Viglucci:

So Right, exactly. So making a decision was coming to mind, also as a tip for the holidays and as people are thinking about the new year. And how am I going to bring my new me, my new you, to the new year and is to think about. Okay, so how do I look? How do I see myself? How does people respond to me? Is this the person that I want to be? It might be in who I think I am or who I want to be, and if not, what's out of alignment? And how do I, how do my choices, start reflecting who I think I am and who I want to become?

Emma Viglucci:

But sometimes we see ourselves as a certain way, but we're being this way or acting this way or dressing this way or showing up this way, and it's like, ooh, no, I'm this. And then I want to go here, not this, and here, right, yes. So okay, let's line up and start operating from that place with choice of words, behaviors, habits, gifting, receiving gifts, giving the gift, the activities, the plans, the goals and then the appearance, right? So, like all of the things, how do we start making choices to line up more with who we think we are, who we want to be, and to continue to evolve that to the best that we can, to the best self. And how do we carry that into the new year? And it might totally be okay. Maybe I don't need to wear a hanky on my lapel or my jacket pocket or whatever. Maybe I need to. I have no idea. You know, it's just wear the high heels in the house every day.

Tavia Sharp :

Yeah, maybe it is like, okay, I'm gonna show up differently on Zoom because I can, and maybe I'm wearing shorts on the bottom, like many clients tell me. Oh, I just wear shorts on the bottom, I'm dressy on top and I'm like, hey, as long as you feel good, that's what matters. So if you notice that you're dressing very laid back, relaxed and sweat, and you notice that that is actually making you feel too comfortable and complacent and kind of relaxed, then maybe you need to shift what you wear, because what I said earlier, it will shift your mood and your mindset.

Emma Viglucci:

I love it right, exactly, exactly. So then, coming up with, like, what are the little shifts, like you said before, what's the tiny little tweak that I could start doing in any of those things that I mentioned and starting right now, and what are the commitments or intentions to carry into the new year, yes, and and you and you know, when I talk about image, it's it is more than clothing, as I mentioned earlier, but also it's top to toe, it's your hair.

Tavia Sharp :

It's smell Like I just worked with a client and he came to New York city he doesn't live here, he flew in, we did a VIP weekend and we did everything from the hairstyle to the scent that he was going to start wearing. So this is also more than clothing. It is like, literally, how you represent yourself and what do you want to leave people with? Like, when you're not in the room or you leave the room, what are people remembering about you? That's a I love that Right?

Emma Viglucci:

So it's not just the wardrobe like let's pick a few outfits that represents who you're going to be or your next level, but also does the hair match the look? Does the makeup match the look? Does the scent match the look? Does, like, the accessories match the look? Right, what kind of bags do you carry? Like my husband just upgraded to a suitcase, to a briefcase. It's like, okay, that's getting a little fancy, right, he was carrying backpacks and now he moved to a briefcase, like, okay, that's interesting, that's an interesting, that's very different look, yes, and so it's cute, right? So like all the little things, little things yeah, yeah, all of it's all of it.

Tavia Sharp :

It's the details sometimes too, like that we may not think too much about, but that's the thing that, like, the person would remember. You know what I mean, like the fact that you look very scruffy, like if you wear a beard. Could you trim it so it looks well-groomed versus scraggly, unmanaged facial hair? Do?

Emma Viglucci:

you know what I'm saying. I do know what you're saying.

Tavia Sharp :

Yes, but it does make a difference, because we are noticing and we're saying why didn't that person just trim it a little bit better? And they would just look like they cared more, like they're maintaining it and they put a little more time and effort into their appearance. That speaks volumes, because it's the thing that people are thinking and not saying that we actually should be thinking more about you know what's really interesting.

Emma Viglucci:

So I'm also I mean, I'm thinking a bunch of different things to say, so that the thing that I want to comment on is gosh, it's falling out of my head. Hang on, too many thoughts. Oh gosh, it fell out. Hopefully it'll come back.

Emma Viglucci:

So another thought that I had was like I was getting my teeth done, I was getting some work done, and the assistant says to me wow, your pores look so clean. What do you use to clean your face? How do you get, when do you get facials? What isn't that interesting?

Emma Viglucci:

And I usually like to say to people and I say this particularly to my daughter, I say this also, my husband reinforces it like a different, like it's part of like you know, like, just do what you need to do, like it doesn't matter, right, but it does matter because people do notice and oh, I remember what I was gonna say.

Emma Viglucci:

So, and even if they don't consciously notice, unconsciously they notice. We'd register everything. So your appearance is going to have an impact on me, whether I registered that you're scruffy or not, given if I say like, oh gosh, that guy's beard grows, even if I don't say it, your scruffiness is gonna be disgusting to me at some level, because I already know I'm disgusted by that. But even if I didn't think about it right now, I'm still automatically going to have right. And I'm sure there's a gazillion other things that we pick up from people that we might not be 100% conscious of, but that we're noticing anyway, we're registering and it's influencing us in terms of how we view them, how much respect or whatever. Right Attraction, yes, but I love what you said, that, yes, the people, the things that people are thinking about, are the things that we should be thinking about.

Tavia Sharp :

Yeah, that was so good. It's the truth. It's really is because they think about it. We always and this is what I want people to notice yes, people tell you the nice things. You look great, oh my God, did you lose weight? You look amazing, I love that color. They always say the nice things. They don't say the not nice things. Right, that's the thing that they're thinking. So people stop saying nice things to you. Oh no, I know, I'm just saying just really think about it. How interesting Did they stop complimenting you and and and just check in with yourself. Hmm, maybe there's something I could be doing differently. Putting a little more effort, that's all and that's. I love that.

Emma Viglucci:

Yeah, that is good feedback, right? So if I'm not getting as many compliments, maybe people are not finding things to compliment because people are going to pick up, they're going to say the good things, they're not going to point out the bad things. But if they're not saying anything, yep.

Tavia Sharp :

Oh.

Emma Viglucci:

I love that. That's great information actually.

Tavia Sharp :

That's terrific, wow, okay, so anything else that people should be thinking about or playing with or tweaking during the holidays and as the new year comes around, so they could bring their new them to the new year. Yeah, I mean just it's OK. When we're entering a new year, we're always thinking about, oh my gosh, we have these new goals and we're all excited, you know, weight loss goals or we have all these goals. But, like, I want you to realize that the thing that I'm talking about today is something you could do, that can happen, like that you literally could say I want to have this look, I want to appear differently. I have this vision for myself. You can literally go and take action and the next day look completely different, and that would shift everything so fast.

Tavia Sharp :

Losing weight takes time. Coaching and therapy does take time. Not saying don't do these things because I do these things. I just mean start something that you could do immediately that would help you shift your energy quick and then take the time to work on these other things, because sometimes we just need that quick, quick, quick thing that helps us shift our identity, shifts our mood, shifts our energy, and then we can spend the time going in deeper or, you know, in these other types of ways. I believe in that because I do these things too. That's awesome. So two things that I want to offer around I do these things too.

Emma Viglucci:

That's awesome. So two things that I want to offer around that, just so that people could receive that easier. The takeaway is excellent Just take action and you'll have an immediate effect. Result right In case people can't take action and people are like, right, and I don't know how and I don't know what I would do, and whatever all the things that hold people back what I would offer is sit with yourself, go in, connect yourself.

Emma Viglucci:

Higher self, higher power, whatever your inclinations are, but definitely higher self, higher power, whatever your inclinations are, but definitely chill and don't be so external to hone in, because from that place, check in. Right. What would be the little action that I could take, what would make me feel better? What is the little tweak that I could do? Is it a jacket or is it a dress? Is it a haircut or is it signing up for the gym? It doesn't even have to be like start like the crazy workout routine, just like one little step, one little action that you could start taking, and that tiny behavior can invite other behaviors, other things that you could start kind of getting this ball rolling so you could embrace more and more of the shift that you want to create. Right.

Tavia Sharp :

Yes.

Emma Viglucci:

Yes, very, very nice. You said immediate change, yeah. So something that I'd like to say to people all the time is and this is when we're in couples therapy and we're like in the middle of things and sometimes what comes up is that we are our own creations, right? So this is totally that's what you're saying. You could just change, change your whole look like this, yeah, right, so I'm choosing to do my hair like this. I chose this color lipstick on purpose because I wanted to look good for the house and it's brighter than I usually wear. I chose this red nail polish on purpose for this, right? So, like these are choices, I didn't have to look like this today. I could look completely different, but we create ourselves, right?

Emma Viglucci:

We, day in and day out. How much do I weigh? How fit I am, what hair color I have, what you know like what, how thick my eyebrows are or not, I don't know, whatever, all the things, right? Whether we have facial hair or not. If you're a guy, like we are choosing our look day in and day out, how groomed we are, how not groomed we are. Like our sizes, right? So my husband's very tall, so I choose to wear a wedge, simple shoe in the house. So I feel taller, right, so I'm actually bigger and when I wear a plus, my husband's like what happened? It's very obvious, right? Because, like, the discrepancy in height is pretty significant and but I feel more in alignment. So that's part of my creation.

Emma Viglucci:

I'm actually a taller person, I made myself taller wow, that's interesting yeah, and, and even the way I experienced at home when I wear flats or flip-flops right, so I'm at a certain level with the tables and the counters and stuff in my eyesight, but when I wear the little wedge and it's not the huge wedge, um, but I'm like two or three inches higher. I don't know what it's like two inches huge. I'm like experiencing at home at a different eye level, right, yeah, and, and when I used to go into the office, I had even higher heels, like that was a different experience. And when I wore flattered shoes, it felt different, like your experience of the world, different ice levels right, that's part of our co-creation.

Emma Viglucci:

Yeah, that's just a tiny little thing, right, but everything about us is created. Everything about us is a habit our thoughts, our feelings, our behaviors and what we choose to wear, right, everything, how we choose to react and think and feel and all the things and how much we hold ourselves back. Yeah, so true, 100, but we could create whatever we want. Yes, Immediately.

Tavia Sharp :

I mean, you can literally just get behind the driver's seat of your own image. That's why I literally say just get in a driver's seat and say I want to feel different, I want to look different, I want to dress different. Everything is your choice. I love that, yes.

Emma Viglucci:

I love it, so we get it. We get it. Yes, very good. So last parting, words of wisdom that you want to share with our audience.

Tavia Sharp :

Oh, what could I say? I mean, I really think it is that just knowing that you get to be in the driver's seat. So take a step back and really think about am I showing up as my best self? You know what's something I could do differently, or do I want to do differently? I mean, if you're happy with it, that's awesome, you know. But if, if you're not, then and you're feeling like, wow, I could do better, well, just really look at that and think what, what could I do better? And what would that look like to me? And you get to be in the driver's seat.

Tavia Sharp :

You get to be in control because, let me tell you, you don't want other people to control it for you, right, you control your image. So if you're not showing up in the best way, guess what? That leaves it to the other person to think X, y, z. But if you are saying, hey, I'm intentionally putting myself out there like this, then that's the way you want to be interpreted and you're in control. So I always say why not? Why would you not want to be? It's your image, it's your brand, right, and this is how we have to be. Now we live in a world where it matters.

Emma Viglucci:

Yeah, the truth was the imprint, was the, was the impression that you want to? What's the impact? What's the magnetism like? What do you want to put out right to get and to help you create everything that you want to create and enjoy and have in life? Absolutely, oh good.

Tavia Sharp :

Yes.

Emma Viglucci:

Perfect, beautiful. Well, tavia, this has been a fabulous conversation, so fun, one of the funnest ones. Oh good, this is a beautiful, fun topic. I love it and I'm all about shifting identities and this is totally a compliment to that. So I love it. Good and so fun speaking with you. Thank you so much for coming today. Thank you so much for having me today, my pleasure and to the listeners, I will see you at the next one. Bye.

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